It seems as though, at least in the secular world, that the feeling of happiness is the antithesis of The Human Experience.
Within the Christian Community, it seems as though we have a difficult and perhaps complicated relationship with happiness.
I'll explain what I mean by this in the second, but first I want to tell you a story.
For couple of my teenage years, it felt like the feeling of happiness was an rarity and my default state was that of lonely, self-loathing.
When I sought to understand my tendencies in this area, I would frequently feel guilty for not feeling happy.
I was raised in a Christian home, lived a fairly comfortable life, had some friends, and yet I didn't feel happy - most of the time.
“Why, why don't I feel happy?” I would think to myself.
Was it that I was not truly understanding the glorious truth of the Gospel and as a result was not experiencing happiness?
Was it that I did not feel happy because I was not truly appreciating the great gifts and blessings that God has provided in my life?
Maybe. But at that time, what I really needed was some space and a place where the pressure to be happy was removed.
Often in our Christian Community, we have a tendency to want to fix people. If we see someone that seems unhappy we want to figure out why and fix why they're feeling this way.
But for me, getting out of this unhappiness was really only possible when I stopped trying to make myself be happy and instead let God work in my life regardless of how I felt.
You won't always feel happy. God understands. He really does. He can empathize with us in our sorrow.
He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not. Isaiah 53:3
But the worst thing that we could do is try to force ourselves to be happy when we're not. God wants us to be real with ourselves and with Him.
Especially, if this unhappiness is that is a result of some kind of hurt or painful experience, the worst thing that we could do is ignore it and thus, the healing that needs to take place.
If you feel guilt for not feeling happy, that guilt is not from God. Don't listen to it.
That being said, we can be unhappy because of a myriad of sinful reasons, which is not what I'm talking about here.
What I want you to understand is this: whether you're a fairly happy person or you're like me and tend to lean to the other side, God understands when you don't feel great and He wants to be there to provide you with the healing that needs to take place, in His time.
Don't hide from him, He wants to be in your sadness with you.
Song of the Week - Man of Sorrows
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